Monday, January 2, 2012

Shopping the Dharma: How do we reconcile our roles as consumers and Buddhist practitioners?

From Tricycle:




Shopping the Dharma





How do we reconcile our roles as consumers and Buddhist practitioners?

Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
 
© Francesca Richer
 
Consumer culture has spawned a class of spiritual shoppers who bring their acquisitive instincts to the practice of the dharma.




When we turn to spirituality, we may think that we’re leaving the corruption of the world behind. But our old ways of thinking do not disappear; they follow us, coloring the way we approach spiritual practice. Since we have all been raised to be good consumers—getting the most while paying the least—as dharma students and teachers we carry our consumer mentality right into our spiritual practice.



How does consumerism manifest on the part of the student? First, we shop for the best product—the best group, the most realized teacher, the highest practice. We go from this place to that, seeking the best spiritual product to “buy.” We want the highest teachings, so we neglect foundational practices. Viewing ourselves as fully qualified disciples, we don’t see much need for basic practices such as ethical discipline and restraint of our senses; instead, we jump into the most advanced tract.



As consumers, we want to be entertained. We’ll attend a center as long as the teacher is entertaining, but when we hear the same teachings over and over again, we get bored and look for the exotic. Coming from the Tibetan tradition, I can say that Tibetan Buddhism obliges us. While in Tibet many of these practices and accoutrements are part of the culture and not seen as exotic, in the West they have become so. There are high thrones for the teachers, brocade seat covers and tablecloths, robes, long horns, short horns, bells, drums, processions, deep chanting, and, oh yes, hats! Yellow ones, red ones, black ones. With all the paraphernalia, how could one ever get bored practicing Tibetan Buddhism? Yet after a while, these become old, and we’re left with our own mind, our own suffering. Having little endurance or commitment to our practice or our teachers, we seek fresh stimulation. We fail to notice that our teachers still do foundational practices and attend basic teachings given by their spiritual mentors. We neglect to see that repetition may be just what we need or that exploring the reason for our boredom could yield fresh insights.



Consumer culture is modeled on instant gratification. We say we want a close relationship with a spiritual mentor, but when that mentor’s guidance challenges our desires or pushes our ego’s buttons too much, we stop seeking it. At the beginning of our practice, we profess to be earnest spiritual seekers, aiming for enlightenment. But after the practice has remedied our immediate problem—the emotional fallout of a divorce, grief at the loss of a loved one, or life’s myriad setbacks—our spiritual interest fades, and we once again seek happiness in possessions, romantic relationships, technology, and career.



In past ages, spiritual aspirants underwent difficulty to meet teachers. Tibetans traversed the high Himalayas to meet wise mentors in India; Chinese crossed the Takla Makan Desert and Karakoram Mountains to attend monasteries and bring back scriptures from India. But our consumer attitude has led us to expect results with little effort. We think, “Why should we have to travel to attend teachings? Our teacher should come to us! We have jobs, families, such busy lives. We don’t have time to cross town, let alone go to another continent.” Forgetting that the seeker’s very effort and struggle open him or her to the teachings, we resent that our spiritual practice should impinge on our preferences.



In addition, receiving teachings or doing spiritual practices takes time, which we don’t have. We ask our teachers to “modernize” the teachings and practices—to shorten and simplify them—so they will conveniently fit into our lives. As consumers functioning in a world of supply and demand, we take our business elsewhere if our wishes aren’t satisfied. Asian Buddhists make offerings to the monastic community to accumulate merit that brings a good rebirth. Looking at them, we Westerners say, “They’re doing spiritual business. They’re practicing dana—generosity—to get something for themselves.” Thinking that we’re superior to Asians following old traditions, we don’t give to the monastic community. Holding to our work ethic, we want would-be recipients to go out and get a job.

And when we do give dana, what is our attitude? At the end of a retreat, someone gives a “dana talk,” saying dana is generosity freely given but that we should think of all we’ve received from the teacher, who has a family, car, mortgage, credit card bills, and needs our financial support. Hasn’t dana, then, become another way of paying for services rendered? Engaging in rigorous mental calculations to determine what amount is reasonable for such services, we miss the point of dana, which is to take delight in giving and to give from the heart. We should give because we want to be free from the hindrance of miserliness, appreciate the dharma, want others to be able to hear teachings, and wish to support practitioners who live simply and devote their time to spiritual study and practice.




Consumerism breeds self-centeredness, and our spiritual practice centers on me, my needs, my preferences, what works for me. We think, “What can I get from this? How will it benefit me?” Thus a dharma center, temple, or monastery becomes a place where we go to receive, not to give. If we don’t think an activity meets our needs, we don’t have the time or money to support it. I regularly visit an Asian temple where parents and nonparents work in the kitchen during the dharma summer camps for kids. Why? Because they enjoy being part of a community. They care about children and the future of society. They want to support activities that benefit others. Giving is part of their spiritual practice, and they enjoy it.



In a consumer society, we derive status from using certain products. Being close to a famous teacher uplifts a student’s spiritual status. Having that teacher stay in our home, ride in our car, bless our religious objects, or sign a photo elevates our status. One of the best ways to become close to a teacher is by being a big donor, obliging teachers to see us in order to show their appreciation. We don’t want to give anonymously and miss a possible reward.



We also get status by possessing valuable spiritual items. We buy beautiful statues, exquisite paintings of religious figures, and lovely photographs of our teachers, which we display on an elaborate altar in our home. When our spiritual friends visit, we make sure they admire our collection of artifacts, but when our relatives visit, we discreetly cover them to avoid their inquiries. We have the latest spiritual books (preferably autographed by the author), a comfy meditation cushion, and the requisite prayer beads (made of crystal or stone, not plastic, and blessed by a holy being).



In addition, we collect spiritual events. We can rattle off a list of retreats we have attended or initiations we have taken. We have become connoisseurs of retreat centers, which we critique for newcomers. We boast of attending large teachings by famous teachers. And we pat ourselves on the back for being such sincere practitioners.



The consumer mentality infects teachers as well. Notices of dharma events don’t just announce an event, but actively sell a product, in this case the teacher or the teaching. Most ads display an enticing photo of a spiritual master who is smiling radiantly or looking wisely into the distance. He or she is, the ads declare, a highly realized, well-respected, fully accomplished master. The topic being taught is a secret teaching that in the past was given to only a select number of qualified disciples. It is the supreme teaching by which previous masters have attained enlightenment. You can receive this for a mere $99.95 plus dana for the teacher. Register early to reserve a seat. What happened to the age-old custom of humble masters who keep their qualities hidden?



With a sincere motivation, letting people who could benefit from a spiritual teaching or retreat know about it is valid and necessary. We need to consider how to do this without hype in a culture that thrives on hype.

In a consumer economy, success is measured by numbers. Thus many spiritual teachers hope attendance at teachings is large, dana continually increases, their books sell well, and invitations to speak on television and radio programs are plentiful. To what extent do we decide where we teach based on the amount of dana we will receive? Is it just coincidence that many teachers go to wealthy communities? How many teachers go to developing countries or to lower-income areas in our own country, where dana is meager?




Finances are necessary to spread the teachings. How can teachers procure support consistent with right livelihood? Do we drop hints, flatter, or subtly coerce people so that they will offer money to us or to our organization? Do we give donors extra perks that are denied to other devotees who may be more sincere but not as well-off? To market a product, it must be appealing to potential buyers. Buddhism says that skillful means—teaching according to the disposition and interests of the students—are necessary to guide people on the path. But when do our skillful means degenerate into marketing?



Do we omit certain ideas or teachings, or explain them away because potential students don’t like them and will stop coming? How much do we water down the scriptural teachings in the name of skillful means, when our motivation is actually attracting and maintaining a large following?



Our consumer mentality as spiritual students and teachers draws us away from actualizing our deepest spiritual aspirations. In Buddhism the distinction between spiritual and nonspiritual actions is made primarily in terms of motivation. Motivations seeking only the happiness of this life are considered worldly because they focus on our own immediate happiness; motivations aspiring to good future rebirth, liberation, and enlightenment are spiritual because they seek long-term goals that benefit self and others.



When describing a mind that seeks the happiness of only this life, the Buddha outlined eight worldly concerns. These eight fall into four pairs: (1) attachment to having money and material possessions; displeasure when we don’t have them, (2) attachment to praise, approval, and ego-pleasing words; displeasure when we are criticized, (3) attachment to having a good reputation and image; displeasure when they are tainted, and (4) attachment to pleasurable sense objects—sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and tactile objects; displeasure when encountering unpleasant sense objects. Personally speaking, when I examine my mental states, most of them consist of these eight, so that having a pure dharma motivation is quite difficult.



Spiritual consumerism clearly falls into the eight worldly concerns. While it is often masked by clever rationalizations, it still enslaves us to the happiness of only this life and sabotages our noble aspiration so that no true dharma practice can actually occur.



Perhaps most distressing is the harm spiritual consumerism has on others. It threatens the purity of our spiritual traditions by enticing us to “adjust” the meaning of the teachings, thus depriving future generations of pure spiritual instructions. It causes others to lose faith in the efficacy of practice because they see us teaching one thing but acting oppositely. It leads spiritual institutions to create structures that harm the very people they promise to help.



We must become aware of how the consumer mentality functions in us and in our spiritual communities and institutions. We need to revive appreciation for the traditional model of a practitioner who lives a life of simplicity and humility, sincerity and endeavor, kindness and compassion. We must choose teachers with these qualities, cultivate these qualities in ourselves, and guide our students in developing them. We must remember that the purpose of a spiritual institution is not to preserve itself, but to facilitate the teaching and practice of a spiritual tradition. We should have only as much institutional structure as needed to do that, no more. This is essential to maintain the vitality of our spiritual traditions and to prevent them from becoming empty shells.



Buddhists are attempting to introduce dharma values and establish a substantial role for the dharma in Western culture, but consumer mentality impedes this. Our collective challenge is to practice and teach the dharma in ways that benefit contemporary culture and at the same time preserve the purity of the teachings. ▼



A student of H. H. the Dalai Lama, Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron has been a nun since 1977. She is spiritual advisor of Dharma Friendship Foundation and cofounder of Sravasti Abbey.



Image © Francesca Richer

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Evangelische Kirche in Deutschland (EKD) (German Evangelical Church) Evangelium Tag für Tag (Daily Scriptural Readings) für Montag, am 2en Januar 2012 (for Monday, the 1st of January 2012)

From ETfT:



EVANGELIUM TAG FÜR TAG


«Herr, zu wem sollen wir gehen? Du hast Worte des ewigen Lebens.» Joh. 6,68







Montag, 02 Januar 2012



2. Montag der Weihnachtszeit



Heiligen des Tages : Hl. Gregor von Nazianz




Montag, 02 Januar 2012

Hl. Gregor von Nazianz

Die anderen Heiligen des Tages...

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Hl. Gregor von Nazianz



Bischof, Kirchenlehrer



Gregor Nazianz war Sohn des gleichnamigen Bischofs von Nazianz in Kleinasien. Er war Studienfreund des heiligen Basilius, wurde Mönch und (362) Priester. Kurze Zeit war er Erzbischof von Konstantinopel. Aber glücklicher fühlte er sich, wenn er aus der Verwaltungsarbeit und dem Treiben der Politik (auch der Kirchenpolitik) zu sich selbst zurückkehren und mit Gott stille Zwiesprache halten konnte. Er war ein leidenschaftlicher Gottsucher und Verfechter der Gottheit Christi; deshalb auch „der Theologe“ genannt. Er starb 390.



Was schadet



„Wären nur alle darin mit mir einig, dass die unruhige Geschäftigkeit den Gemeinden nur schadet. Der Glaube geht in die Brüche, wenn er als Deckmantel für die ehrgeizige Rechthaberei der Einzelnen dienen muss.“ (Gregor von Nazianz, Brief an Basilius)
http://www.erzabtei-beuron.de/schott/proprium/Januar02.htm


Montag, 02 Januar 2012


Hl. Adalhard

Die anderen Heiligen des Tages...

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Hl. Adalhard



Abt, Klostergründer



* um 751

† 2. Januar 826



Adalhard war ein Sohn von Bernhard, der ein Sohn von Karl Martell und Halb-Bruder von Pippin war Wala war sein Bruder; damit war Adalhard ein Vetter von Karl dem Großen, an dessen Hof er eine gute Ausbildung erhielt. 771 trat er aus Protest gegen die anti-langobardische Politik Karl des Großen ins Benediktinerkloster Corbie ein, das im geistlichen Leben des frühen Mittelalters eine führende Stellung einnahm, wurde dort - nach einer Reise zum Ursprungskloster der Benediktiner auf dem Kloster Montecassino - 780 Abt und blieb dies bis zu seinem Tod.



Adalhard blieb in enger Verbindung mit dem Königshof, an dessen Bildungsarbeit er sich unter dem Pseudonym Antonius beteiligte. Mit Alkuin verband ihn Freundschaft, mit Paulus dem Diakon stand er in regem Austausch. Um 780 wurde er Kanzler des Sohnes von Karl dem Große, Pippin, des Königs von Italien und dessen Nachfolger Bernhard. 799 nahm er in Paderborn an Karls Verhandlungen mit Papst Leo III. teil, 802 an der Synode in Aachen über die Kirchenorganisation im Frankenreich und 809 an der Aachener Synode über den Filioque-Streit. Im selben Jahr machte Karl ihn zum kaiserlichen Gesandten bei Papst Leo.



814 verbannte sein Neffe, Ludwig I. der Fromme, Adalhard wegen seiner Gegnerschaft gegen Benedikt von Aniane (Witiza) auf die Insel Herium - die heutige Insel Noirmoutier. 815 gründete Adalhard zusammen mit seinem Bruder Wala beim heutigen Ort Neuhaus im Solling als Tochterkloster von Corbie. 821 wurde Adalhard begnadigt, war wieder als Ratgeber am Hof von Ludwig tätig, prägte maßgeblich die Synode von Attigny zur Wiederherstellung des Kirchengutes und er konnte nach Corbie zurückkehren; 822 wurde das neue Kloster von Neuhaus an seinen heutigen Platz in Corvey bei Höxter verlegt; dieses erste norddeutsche Kloster wurde schnell berühmt. Adalhard gründete in Corvey auch eine Schule für die Missionierung der Sachsen und in Herford ein Frauenstift.



Adalhard verfasste die Hofordnung für Karl den Großen sowie Statuten für das Kloster Corbie.
http://www.heiligenlexikon.de/BiographienA/Adalhard.htm
 
 

 

Kommentar zum heutigen Evangelium -

Hl. Guerric von Igny : «Ebnet den Weg für den Herrn»



Erster Brief des Johannes 2,22-28.

Wer ist der Lügner - wenn nicht der, der leugnet, daß Jesus der Christus ist? Das ist der Antichrist: wer den Vater und den Sohn leugnet.

Wer leugnet, daß Jesus der Sohn ist, hat auch den Vater nicht; wer bekennt, daß er der Sohn ist, hat auch den Vater.

Für euch gilt: Was ihr von Anfang an gehört habt, soll in euch bleiben; wenn das, was ihr von Anfang an gehört habt, in euch bleibt, dann bleibt ihr im Sohn und im Vater.

Und seine Verheißung an uns ist das ewige Leben.

Dies habe ich euch über die geschrieben, die euch in die Irre führen.

Für euch aber gilt: Die Salbung, die ihr von ihm empfangen habt, bleibt in euch, und ihr braucht euch von niemand belehren zu lassen. Alles, was seine Salbung euch lehrt, ist wahr und keine Lüge. Bleibt in ihm, wie es euch seine Salbung gelehrt hat.

Und jetzt, meine Kinder, bleibt in ihm, damit wir, wenn er erscheint, die Zuversicht haben und bei seinem Kommen nicht zu unserer Schande von ihm gerichtet werden.







Psalm 98(97),1.2-3ab.3cd-4.

[Ein Psalm.] Singet dem Herrn ein neues Lied; denn er hat wunderbare Taten vollbracht. Er hat mit seiner Rechten geholfen und mit seinem heiligen Arm.

Der Herr hat sein Heil bekannt gemacht und sein gerechtes Wirken enthüllt vor den Augen der Völker.

Er dachte an seine Huld und an seine Treue zum Hause Israel. Alle Enden der Erde sahen das Heil unsres Gottes.

Jauchzt vor dem Herrn, alle Länder der Erde, freut euch, jubelt und singt!











Evangelium nach Johannes 1,19-28.

Dies ist das Zeugnis des Johannes: Als die Juden von Jerusalem aus Priester und Leviten zu ihm sandten mit der Frage: Wer bist du?,

bekannte er und leugnete nicht; er bekannte: Ich bin nicht der Messias.

Sie fragten ihn: Was bist du dann? Bist du Elija? Und er sagte: Ich bin es nicht. Bist du der Prophet? Er antwortete: Nein.

Da fragten sie ihn: Wer bist du? Wir müssen denen, die uns gesandt haben, Auskunft geben. Was sagst du über dich selbst?

Er sagte: Ich bin die Stimme, die in der Wüste ruft: Ebnet den Weg für den Herrn!, wie der Prophet Jesaja gesagt hat.

Unter den Abgesandten waren auch Pharisäer.

Sie fragten Johannes: Warum taufst du dann, wenn du nicht der Messias bist, nicht Elija und nicht der Prophet?

Er antwortete ihnen: Ich taufe mit Wasser. Mitten unter euch steht der, den ihr nicht kennt

und der nach mir kommt; ich bin es nicht wert, ihm die Schuhe aufzuschnüren.

Dies geschah in Betanien, auf der anderen Seite des Jordan, wo Johannes taufte.









Auszug aus der liturgischen Übersetzung der Bibel







Kommentar zum heutigen Evangelium :



Hl. Guerric von Igny (um 1080 - 1157), Zisterzienserabt

5. Predigt zum Advent





«Ebnet den Weg für den Herrn»

„Bereitet dem Herrn den Weg.“ Brüder, selbst wenn ihr auf diesem Weg schon weit fortgeschritten seid, müsst ihr ihn immer weiter ebnen, damit ihr von dort aus, wo ihr angelangt seid, immer weiter vorwärts geht und immer ausgerichtet seid auf das, was vor euch liegt. Wenn daher der Weg mit jedem Schritt, den ihr tut, für seine Ankunft bereitet ist, wird der Herr in immer neuer und immer größerer Gestalt vor euch erscheinen. Der Gerechte betet also zu Recht: „Führe mich auf dem Pfad deiner Gebote, ich habe an ihm Gefallen“ (Ps 119,33). Dieser Weg heißt Weg der Weisheit, weil die Güte dessen, auf den wir uns zubewegen, kein Ende hat.



Deshalb wird der weise und entschlossene Pilger, auch wenn er am Ziel angekommen ist, daran denken, sich erneut auf den Weg zu machen; er vergisst, was hinter ihm liegt (Phil 3,13), und wird sich jeden Tag sagen: „Jetzt fange ich neu an“ (Ps 76,11 Vulg)... Wir reden davon, auf diesem Weg Fortschritte zu machen: möge der Himmel Gefallen daran haben, dass wir uns wenigstens bereits aufgemacht haben. Meiner Meinung nach ist jeder, der sich aufgemacht hat, schon auf dem rechten Weg. Wir müssen uns jedenfalls wirklich auf den Weg machen und „den Weg zur wohnlichen Stadt“ (Ps 107,4) finden. Denn der, der die Wahrheit ist (Mt 7,14), sagt: „Nur wenige finden ihn; und viele irren umher in der Wüste, im Ödland“ (Ps 107,4)...



Und du, Herr, hast uns einen Weg bereitet; wenn wir uns doch nur darauf einlassen wollten!... Durch deine Gebote hast du uns gelehrt, deinen Willen zu tun: „Hier ist der Weg, auf ihm müsst ihr gehen, auch wenn ihr selbst rechts oder links gehen wolltet“ (Jes 30,21). Es ist der Weg, den der Prophet verheißen hat: „Eine gerade Straße wird es dort geben und Unerfahrene gehen nicht mehr in die Irre“ (Jes 35,8)... Ich habe es noch nie erlebt, dass ein Unerfahrener sich verirrt, wenn er auf deinem Weg bleibt, Herr...; aber wehe denen, die in ihren eigenen Augen weise sind (Jes 5,21); ihre Weisheit hat sie vom Weg des Heils abgebracht, und sie konnten dem Retter auf seinem Weg der Torheit nicht folgen... Torheit, die wünschenswert ist, die Weisheit genannt werden wird in den Augen Gottes, der es nicht zulässt, dass wir von seinem Weg abkommen.

Practical Advice Regarding Spiritual Teachers

from Tricycle:




Practical Advice Regarding Spiritual Teachers



Alexander Berzin
 
When the spiritual seeker and the teacher come from different cultures, accommodations on both sides are required. But can guru devotion--essential to Tibetan Buddhism and one of the most problematic issues for Westerners--find its place in the West? This question becomes particularly thorny in the United States, where mistrust of authority is historically indigenous and confusion about "the guru" runs rampant. In his new book, Relating to a Spiritual Teacher: Building a Healthy Relationship (Snow Lion, 2000), Alexander Berzin, Buddhist scholar, translator, and practitioner, maps out this problematic territory with encyclopedic precision and offers practical advice. This excerpt has been adapted from several different chapters for Tricycle.




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courtesy Michael Buckley
The Initial Interaction




The phenomenon of Western Dharma centers—and the arrival of many Tibetan teachers—began in the mid-1970s. The Chinese Cultural Revolution was raging in Tibet, and destruction of the monasteries that had begun in 1959 was nearly complete. Many Tibetan refugees had witnessed India's border war with China in 1962 and its wars with Pakistan in 1965 and 1971. Indian authorities, unable to support the millions of Bangladeshi refugees they had initially accepted, had sent them back and might easily do the same with Tibetans. Due to tensions in Nepal, Sikkim, and Bhutan, Tibetan refugees felt insecure there and looked for safer havens in case of emergency.



Several older Tibetan teachers had moved to the West at the end of the 1950s and beginning of the 1960s. They had kept a low teaching profile, primarily associated with universities. A few younger Tibetan lamas, however, had also come to the West in the late 1960s and early 1970s, mostly to receive a modern education. Responding to the growing thirst for spiritual guidance, they began to teach Buddhism by the mid-1970s, with some using nontraditional, adaptive methods. They soon invited their own teachers from India and Nepal to tour the West and to inspire their students.



Initially, these great Tibetan masters mostly conducted rituals and tantric initiations. Their primary motivation was to plant seeds of positive potential in the minds of those attending, so that they would reap beneficial results in future lives. But most Westerners had little if any thought of improving future lives. Most came out of curiosity, to fulfill their fantasies of the mystical East, or to find a miracle cure for their problems. The exotic splendor of the rituals enchanted many, and Tibetan Buddhism soon became a fad.



In response to both Western interest and mounting insecurity felt in India and surrounding countries, many Tibetan teachers from both older and younger generations thought to establish a base in the West. Most who came founded their own Dharma centers. No such phenomenon had existed before in the history of Buddhism. Previously, teachers who traveled to lands that were new to Buddhism established only monasteries, not meditation and study facilities for laypeople.



Some of the more dynamic teachers attracted groups in several cities and countries. To meet the growing demand, a few invited geshes and lamas from the Tibetan communities in the Himalayas to live and teach at their centers. Most of these junior teachers would have remained unnoticed in Tibet; circumstances, however, thrust them into positions of spiritual authority normally reserved for those of much higher attainment.



The head lamas and abbots in Tibetan Buddhism do not serve as supervisors for those under their care. Their primary role is to preside over ceremonies and, if a monastic, to ordain monks and nuns. Thus, isolated from their peers and teachers and lacking any checks or balances, many junior teachers in the West adopted a mode of behavior familiar from pre-communist Tibet—they assumed the role of benevolent lord of a spiritual fiefdom to be supported and served with loyal devotion.



On the other side, Western students who returned from India and Nepal mimicked the behavior they had seen Tibetan disciples show toward the highest masters there. When traditional teachings on so-called “guru devotion” and the extremely advanced practice of seeing the mentor as a Buddha were only superficially explained, further confusion was created.



With a new millennium at hand, many Westerners called for a purely Western Buddhism, free of irrelevant religious and cultural trappings of the East. Differentiating the essence from the trappings, however, is never simple. People sometimes discard important factors in haste, without deeply examining the possible effects. Consequently, furious debate flared up between “traditionalists” and “modernists” within the Western Buddhist community. Debates included the language to use for performing ritual practices and the place of belief in rebirth in following the Buddhist path.



Today, the student-teacher relationship as understood and developed in the West needs reexamination. However, any approach at restructuring needs to avoid two extremes. The first is justifying the deification of the teacher to the point that it encourages a cult mentality and whitewashes abuse. The second is justifying the demonization of the teacher to the point that paranoia and distrust prevent the benefits to be gained from a healthy disciple-mentor relationship. In trying to prevent the first extreme, we need great care not to fall to the second.

Courtesy Wisdom Publications
 
The Rectification of Names




Classical Chinese philosophy teaches that difficulties often come from confusion about names. Confucius therefore called for a “rectification of names.” We may extend this principle to spiritual teachers and seekers. If we are sloppy with our use of terms and let anyone call him or herself a guru or a disciple, we open ourselves to unfortunate relationships.



In Personal Instructions from My Totally Excellent Teacher, the outspoken nineteenth-century Nyingma master Patrul indicated that spiritual seekers need to take responsibility themselves. Charlatans and scoundrels may present themselves as great teachers. They may even have professionals launch effective advertising campaigns for their books and lecture tours. Nevertheless, it is up to the public to become their followers. If we set the standards, we will not let imitations fool us.



The most well-known Sanskrit term for a spiritual teacher is guru. Although in several Western countries, the word guru negatively connotes the head of a cult, the term literally means someone weighty with qualifications. Gu is short for guna, good qualities, and ru stands for ruchi, a collection. Moreover, gurus are sublime beings, since u stands for uttara, meaning supreme.



The Tibetans translated guru as lama. La means unsurpassable or sublime, while ma means mother. Lamas resemble mothers in that they have given birth internally to what is sublime. Moreover, lamas help others to give birth to a similar state.



As that which is unsurpassed, la refers to bodhichitta—a heart fully focused on enlightenment and totally dedicated to achieving it to benefit others. It derives from love and compassion. Enlightenment is the highest level of spiritual self-development possible, reached with the elimination of every negative trait and with the realization of every positive quality. With its actualization comes Buddhahood and the ability to help others as fully as is possible. Ma connotes wisdom, the mother of all spiritual attainments. Lamas, then, combine a totally dedicated heart with wisdom and are able to lead others to a similar achievement.



The original meaning of a lama, then, is a highly advanced spiritual teacher. Such persons are fully capable of guiding disciples along the entire Buddhist path, all the way to enlightenment. To rectify problems in student-teacher relationships, a spiritual teacher needs to live up to this meaning of the names guru and lama.


When the spiritual seeker and the teacher come from different cultures, accommodations on both sides are required. But can guru devotion--essential to Tibetan Buddhism and one of the most problematic issues for Westerners--find its place in the West? This question becomes particularly thorny in the United States, where mistrust of authority is historically indigenous and confusion about "the guru" runs rampant. In his new book, Relating to a Spiritual Teacher: Building a Healthy Relationship (Snow Lion, 2000), Alexander Berzin, Buddhist scholar, translator, and practitioner, maps out this problematic territory with encyclopedic precision and offers practical advice. This excerpt has been adapted from several different chapters for Tricycle.



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Other Uses of the Word Lama



Tibetan Buddhism developed four major traditions - Nyingma, Kagy , Sakya, and Gelug - and spread beyond Tibet to the other Himalayan regions, Mongolia, parts of Siberia, and several other Central Asian cultures. Because of this diversity, the word lama gradually acquired other meanings. One source of confusion about so-called “guru-devotion” comes from thinking that the practice applies to lamas unilaterally.



Many serious practitioners of the Kagy and Nyingma traditions enter a three-year meditation retreat. During this period, they train in the major Buddha-figure (yidam, deity) systems of their lineage, spend several weeks or months on each tantra system, master its rituals, and familiarize themselves with its meditation practice. The heads of some subdivisions of these lineages have recently started the custom of granting lama as a title to the most proficient graduates of a retreat. In the Gelug tradition, monks who successfully complete rigorous training at one of the tantric monastic colleges near Lhasa receive the name lama, specifically tantric lama, although they do not use the name as a title.



In both cases, lama signifies a ritual master. Although the person has trained in meditation, he or she has not necessarily achieved any spiritual attainment. Nor is the person necessarily qualified to lead others through the Buddhist path. Nevertheless, the person can perform rituals correctly and can instruct others to do so. Among the Tibetans, such lamas serve somewhat like village priests. They travel from village to village and perform rituals for people in their homes.



Persons who are lamas by virtue simply of being ritual masters command respect, but they are not the persons to whom the classical disciple-mentor relationship refers.

Buddha's First Sermon
The Different Types of Spiritual Teachers and Seekers




People at Western Dharma centers often have difficulty relating to spiritual teachers, even properly qualified ones, and are confused by the teaching that they must regard spiritual teachers as Buddhas. They may think that they need to regard all teachers in this way and that they must do so from the start.



To help dispel this confusion, we need to differentiate levels among spiritual teachers. Let us call someone who conveys information about Buddha’s teachings from a withdrawn perspective a “Buddhism professor.” Someone, on the other hand, who imparts the teachings from the point of view of his or her personal experience, shall be named a “Dharma instructor.” A person who trains others in the pragmatic aspects of meditation or ritual practice, we shall call a “meditation or ritual trainer.”



“Spiritual mentor” shall be used for someone who leads others to liberation or enlightenment. Spiritual mentors include “refuge or vow preceptors,” who confer refuge or liberation vows, and “Mahayana masters,” who teach the methods for developing bodhichitta and confer bodhisattva vows. “Tantric master” shall apply to a spiritual mentor who confers initiations and tantric vows. The teacher who turns a seeker’s heart and mind most strongly to the Dharma, we shall refer to as a “root guru.” Most frequently, our root guru is one of our tantric masters.



In conjunction with each type of spiritual teacher, we may formulate a corresponding spiritual seeker. The term “disciple” refers exclusively to those who train for liberation or enlightenment with a spiritual mentor, and certainly not to a newcomer at a Dharma center. Although the purpose of the relationship between any level of spiritual seeker and teacher is to gain inspiration for following the spiritual path, the classical textual presentations of the relationship speak only about disciples and mentors. They do not pertain to prior levels of either of the two.



Seeing All One’s Teachers as Buddhas



Both the sutras and tantras say that we need to regard equally as a Buddha anyone who taught us even one verse of Dharma and someone who taught us the entire spiritual path. In Liberation in the Palm of Our Hand, the early twentieth-century Gelug fundamentalist Pabongka cited the meditation master Drubkang Geleg-gyatso as having been unable to receive any realization until he could see the pure appearance of the disrobed nun who taught him to read. Westerners frequently have difficulty with this example because they interpret it to mean that unless they see their kindergarten teacher as a Buddha, they will not make progress on the spiritual path. Although seeing everyone as a Buddha is helpful for realizing Buddha-nature, the instructions on building a disciple-mentor relationship pertain only to one’s spiritual mentors.



In general, once we have built a disciple-mentor relationship with one teacher, we need to regard and treat all our spiritual teachers, even our previous Buddhism professors, with the same respect as we show our mentor. Before that, when we are still relating to a teacher as our Buddhism professor or Dharma instructor, we show the person respect, but regarding him or her as we would a spiritual mentor and seeking instruction on tantric practice is inappropriate.



The instruction to see one’s spiritual mentor as a Buddha was never intended to be taken literally. The point is to see Buddha-nature - the factors allowing for enlightenment - in one’s mentor, and to gain inspiration to realize Buddha-nature within oneself.



Guru-Meditation



In A Lamp for the Definitive Meaning (Torch of Certainty), the nineteenth-century nonsectarian master Kongtrul correlated an essential element of bodhichitta meditation with guru-meditation. To develop the wish to benefit all beings entails recognizing everyone as having been our mother in some previous life and focusing on our mother’s kindness. Similarly, guru-meditation for gaining inspiration requires focusing on our mentor’s kindness.



Many Westerners, however, have difficulty focusing on the kindness of their mother. One of the reasons may be that she fails to live up to our model of an ideal parent. Similarly, when our spiritual mentor has shortcomings and does not live up to our model of an ideal teacher, we may also have difficulty recognizing his or her kindness.



Our emotional block in appreciating the kindness of our less-than-perfect mentor may derive from a fault in mental labeling. Madhyamaka philosophy explains that words and concepts of knowable general phenomena, such as kindness, are mental labels that refer to a broad set of specific examples. If, however, we have a fixed idea of what kindness is, then we grasp at “kindness” to refer to only one specific form of kindness.



For instance, we may have a mental picture of an ideal spiritual mentor - one who spends all his or her time exclusively on us with loving warmth and affection like our ideal mother or father would. Our spiritual mentor, however, may have many other disciples besides us and may not be particularly demonstrative of physical warmth. Moreover, in a society that is particularly hypersensitive to possible sexual harassment, our mentor may choose to be reserved in showing affection. He or she shows kindness in taking meticulous care of our spiritual needs and in teaching us with consistent dedication and enthusiasm despite our being less than a perfect student. To appreciate our mentor’s kindness and gain inspiration from it in guru-meditation, we need to expand any restricted concept of kindness we may have.


When the spiritual seeker and the teacher come from different cultures, accommodations on both sides are required. But can guru devotion--essential to Tibetan Buddhism and one of the most problematic issues for Westerners--find its place in the West? This question becomes particularly thorny in the United States, where mistrust of authority is historically indigenous and confusion about "the guru" runs rampant. In his new book, Relating to a Spiritual Teacher: Building a Healthy Relationship (Snow Lion, 2000), Alexander Berzin, Buddhist scholar, translator, and practitioner, maps out this problematic territory with encyclopedic precision and offers practical advice. This excerpt has been adapted from several different chapters for Tricycle.



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Transforming Negative Circumstances into Positive Ones



Another aspect of seeing mentors as Buddhas is to take all their actions as teachings, even if some actions are, in fact, faulty or destructive. Thus, in establishing a close bond with a spiritual mentor, specifically with a tantric master, we agree to refrain from becoming angry or disrespectful of our teacher, regardless of what he or she may say or do. Even if our mentor acts unethically or causes harm, we try to learn a lesson from it. The lesson may simply be to restrain from acting destructively like this ourselves.



Learning a lesson from the faulty behavior of one’s mentor does not mean denying that the behavior was faulty. If we find the fault unbearable, we may follow the advice of The Kalachakra Tantra and decide to keep a distance from the teacher. Nevertheless, a healthy attitude is to maintain respect for the person’s good qualities.



Beyond Good and Bad



Many Kagy and Nyingma texts discuss a tantric or Dzogchen master’s behavior as beyond good or bad. They are not speaking, however, about what an action, such as abuse, conventionally is, or what effects such an action produces. Buddhism does not relativize everything to the point that all phenomena lose their conventional identity. Abusive behavior damages both the perpetrator and the victim. Beyond good or bad means that, from a Buddha’s point of view, all actions are beyond the dualistic categories of independently good or bad. It is not a denial of cause and effect. Otherwise, a Buddha’s enlightening actions could not benefit anyone.



Properly qualified tantric or Dzogchen masters, then, would always refrain from abusive behavior. Especially if they are in the public eye, they would also refrain from acting in conventionally destructive ways so that no one would lose faith in Buddhism. In fact, such teachers promise to uphold this guideline as one of their secondary bodhichitta vows.



Thus, the practice of seeing one’s tantric mentor as a Buddha in no way negates the conventional validity of appearances. An appearance of an abusive spiritual mentor as having inherent flaws is ultimately invalid because inherent existence, independent of anything, is impossible. No one is inherently bad. Nevertheless, the appearance may be conventionally valid concerning the fact that the behavior of the abusive teacher has caused suffering. All Tibetan traditions accept a valid distinction between accurate and distorted conventional truths.



Self-Destructive Actions Regarding a Spiritual Mentor



Sometimes there are disastrous self-destructive actions regarding a spiritual teacher, and they fall into three categories. The first is building a relationship with a misleading teacher. Second is disbelieving the good qualities that a mentor actually has and thinking with a distorted, antagonistic attitude about them. The third is relating distortedly with a properly qualified mentor, a violation of the first root tantric vow to avoid scorning or deriding one’s tantric master.



A misleading teacher is someone ruled by disturbing emotions, such as attachment, anger, or na�vet�; who pretends to have qualities that he or she lacks; and who hides actual shortcomings. Moreover, such a person has a weak sense of ethics, teaches only for personal gain, and gives incorrect information and instruction. Na�ve spiritual seekers may incorrectly consider some of the person's faults as assets and ascribe good qualities that he or she lacks. Consequently, they build a distorted relationship that is based on deception.



Thinking with a distorted, antagonistic attitude is one of the ten fundamentally destructive actions described in Buddhism. It means to deny or repudiate what is true about someone or something and entails planning to spread one’s prejudiced opinion to others. Here, it refers to denying or repudiating the good qualities that a spiritual mentor actually has and planning to spread false information about the person. This destructive way of thinking, then, goes far beyond merely disbelieving a mentor’s good qualities.



Devotion



Although devotion is an improper translation of tenpa - the Tibetan word for building a healthy, trustful relationship with a spiritual mentor - nevertheless, the Western phenomenon of devotion often occurs in the relationship. Devotion is a complex emotion, but one of its aspects is the uplifting feeling derived from a loss of self in awe of something greater.



In its classical form, devotion occurs with a leap of faith. This form of devotion sometimes brings problems, because devotees may project the entire unconscious side of their personality.



If Western disciples project as a shadow an unknowable unconscious onto a mentor and lose themselves in adoration and awe, the result may be a serious block to a healthy relationship. One may lose all sense of a conventional “me” and become dependent on an idolized mentor whom one can only worship and adore. Moreover, viewing the mentor’s qualities and actions as an unknowable mystery - beyond all thought, conception, words, and sense of good or bad - may open one to possible abuse.



Showing Respect to a Western Spiritual Teacher



The procedures of guru-meditation apply equally to Tibetan and Western spiritual teachers. However, the manner of showing respect to the teacher may need to differ. General customs of politeness, such as being quiet and attentive when a teacher enters the classroom, suit any society. However, certain ritual Asian forms of showing respect, such as making prostrations, may be uncomfortable.



A sincere expression of respect needs to arise naturally. A mentor needs to let Western disciples express their respect in their own way and to learn to read the language that the disciples use. Most Westerners value freedom of choice. To express their respect in an emotionally comfortable manner, they need a choice of acknowledged ways that do not make them feel like a fool or like a shallow imitator of foreign ways.



In Summary



The tantras unanimously agree that the inspiration gained from a healthy disciple-mentor relationship is a source of true joy and spiritual attainment. However, when misunderstood and mixed with confusion, the relationship becomes unhealthy and may give rise to spiritual devastation and emotional pain. Misunderstanding may occur on the side of the disciple, the mentor, or both; and cultural factors may often add to the confusion.



Many people, disillusioned or outraged at failures in the disciple-mentor relationship in the West, have called for a serious revision. Revision, however, does not require overturning tradition and inventing something entirely new. Revision may come from clearing away confusion about Buddha’s teachings and about the cultural factors unconsciously affecting the thought and behavior of each party in the relationship. When Westerners are involved, imprecise or misleading translation terms frequently worsen the confusion. To build healthy disciple-mentor relationships and to heal the wounds that may have occurred from unhealthy ones, a rectification of names, together with cultural sensitivity, may help to bring emotional clarity.



Alexander Berzin received a doctorate in Buddhist Studies at Harvard University in 1972 and has studied with masters from all four Tibetan lineages. For twenty-nine years, he lived with the Tibetan refugee community in India, working under the guidance of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, principally as a Dharma translator. He has been a Dharma teacher since 1982. His most recent books includeTaking the Kalachakra Initiation and Developing Balanced Sensitivity (both published by Snow Lion). He currently lives and teaches in Berlin, Germany.



Image 1: A public teaching in a temple courtyard. Courtesy Michael Buckley

Image 2: A legendary disciple and teacher: Milarepa, seated at right, relates his first meditation experience to his teacher, Marpa. Illustration by Amy Soderberg. Courtesy Wisdom Publications, Boston, Mass. From Drinking ht eMountain Stream: Songs of Tibet's Beloved Saint, Milarepa, 1995

Image 3: Scene of the Buddha's First Sermon, wall painting, Kinnari Cave, Kumtura, China, 8th-9th century CE. Courtesy Staatliche Museen zu Berlin- Preubischer Kulturbesitz, Museum fur Indische Kunst

Greek Orthodox Church in America Daily Readings for Sunday, 1 January 2012

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Daily Scripture Readings and Lives of the Saints for Sunday, January 1, 2012



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Readings for today:



John 20:1-10

St. Paul's Letter to the Colossians 2:8-12

Luke 2:20-21, 40-52



Feasts and Saints celebrated today:



Circumcision of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ

Basil the Great, Archbishop of Caesarea in Cappadocia

Gregory, Bishop of Nanzianzos, Father of Gregory the Theologian

Peter the New Martyr of the Peloponnesos

Theodotos the Martyr

Righteous Theodosios of Triglia

Emmelia, Mother of Basil the Great, Gregory of Nyssa, Makrina, and Peter of Sebaste

Telemachos the Martyr

Fulgentius, Bishop of Ruspe

Basil the Martyr of Ankyra





Orthros Gospel Reading



The reading is from John 20:1-10



At that time, Mary Magdalene came to the tomb early, while it was still dark, and saw that the stone had been taken away from the tomb. So she ran, and went to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved, and said to them, "They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we do not know where they have laid him." Peter then came out with the other disciple, and they went toward the tomb. They both ran, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first; and stooping to look in, he saw the linen cloths lying there, but he did not go in. Then Simon Peter came, following him, and went into the tomb; he saw the linen cloths lying, and the napkin, which had been on his head, not lying with the linen cloths but rolled up in a place by itself. Then the other disciple, who reached the tomb first, also went in, and he saw and believed; for as yet they did not know the scripture, that he must rise from the dead. Then the disciples went back to their homes.



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Epistle Reading



The reading is from St. Paul's Letter to the Colossians 2:8-12



BRETHREN, see to it that no one makes a prey of you by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the universe, and not according to Christ. For in him the whole fulness of deity dwells bodily, and you have come to fulness of life in him, who is the head of all rule and authority. In him also you were circumcised with a circumcision made without hands, by putting off the body of flesh in the circumcision of Christ; and you were buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead.



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Gospel Reading



The reading is from Luke 2:20-21, 40-52



At that time, the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all they had heard and seen, as it had been told them. And at the end of eight days, when he was circumcised, he was called Jesus, the name given by the angel before he was conceived in the womb. And the child grew and became strong, filled with wisdom; and the favor of God was upon him. Now his parents went to Jerusalem every year at the feast of the Passover. And when he was twelve years old, they went up according to custom; and when the feast was ended, as they were returning, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents did not know it, but supposing him to be in the company they went a day's journey, and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintances; and when they did not find him, they returned to Jerusalem, seeking him. After three days, they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions; and all who heard him were amazed at his un

derstanding and his answers. And when they saw him they were astonished; and his mother said to him, "Son, why have you treated us so? Behold, your father and I have been looking for you anxiously." And he said to them, "How is it that you sought me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father's house?" And they did not understand the saying which he spoke to them. And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them; and his mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature, and in favor with God and man.



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Circumcision of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ



Reading from the Synaxarion:



Since the Mosaic Law commands that if a woman give birth to a male child, he should be circumcised in the foreskin of his flesh on the eighth day (Lev. 12:2-3), on this, the eighth day from His Nativity, our Saviour accepted the circumcision commanded by the Law. According to the command of the Angel, He received the Name which is above every name: JESUS, which means "Saviour" (Matt. 1:21; Luke 1:31 and 2:21).



Apolytikion in the First Tone

Our human form hast Thou taken on Thyself without change, O greatly-compassionate Master, though being God by nature; fulfilling the Law, Thou willingly receivest circumcision in the flesh, that Thou mightest end the shadow and roll away the veil of our sinful passions. Glory be to Thy goodness unto us. Glory be to Thy compassion. Glory, O Word, to Thine inexpressible condescension.





Kontakion in the Third Tone

Now the Lord of all that is doth undergo circumcision, in His goodness cutting off the sins and failings of mortals. He this day doth give salvation unto the whole world; and the hierarch and bright daystar of the Creator now rejoiceth in the highest, Basil the wise and divine initiate of Christ.





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Basil the Great, Archbishop of Caesarea in Cappadocia



Reading from the Synaxarion:



Saint Basil the Great was born about the end of the year 329 in Caesarea of Cappadocia, to a family renowned for their learning and holiness. His parents' names were Basil and Emily. His mother Emily (commemorated July 19) and his grandmother Macrina (Jan. 14) are Saints of the Church, together with all his brothers and sisters: Macrina, his elder sister (July 19), Gregory of Nyssa (Jan. to), Peter of Sebastia (Jan. 9), and Naucratius. Basil studied in Constantnople under the sophist Libanius, then in Athens, where also he formed a friendship with the young Gregory, a fellow Cappadocian, later called "the Theologian." Through the good influence of his sister Macrina (see July 19), he chose to embrace the ascetical life, abandoning his worldly career. He visited the monks in Egypt, in Palestine, in Syria, and in Mesopotamia, and upon returning to Caesarea, he departed to a hermitage on the Iris River in Pontus, not far from Annesi, where his mother and his sister Macrina were

already treading the path of the ascetical life; here he also wrote his ascetical homilies.



About the year 370, when the bishop of his country reposed, he was elected to succeed to his throne and was entrusted with the Church of Christ, which he tended for eight years, living in voluntary poverty and strict asceticism, having no other care than to defend holy Orthodoxy as a worthy successor of the Apostles. The Emperor Valens, and Modestus, the Eparch of the East, who were of one mind with the Arians, tried with threats of exile and of torments to bend the Saint to their own confession, because he was the bastion of Orthodoxy in all Cappadocia, and preserved it from heresy when Arianism was at its strongest. But he set all their malice at nought, and in his willingness to give himself up to every suffering for the sake of the Faith, showed himself to be a martyr by volition. Modestus, amazed at Basil's fearlessness in his presence, said that no one had ever so spoken to him. "Perhaps," answered the Saint, "you have never met a bishop before." The Emperor Valens hims

elf was almost won over by Basil's dignity and wisdom. When Valens' son fell gravely sick, he asked Saint Basil to pray for him. The Saint promised that his son would be restated if Valens agreed to have him baptized by the Orthodox; Valens agreed, Basil prayed, and the son was restored. But afterwards the Emperor had him baptized by Arians, and the child died soon after. Later, Valens, persuaded by his counsellors, decided to send the Saint into exile because he would not accept the Arians into communion; but his pen broke when he was signing the edict of banishment. He tried a second time and a third, but the same thing happened, so that the Emperor was filled with dread, and tore up the document, and Basil was not banished. The truly great Basil, spent with extreme ascetical practices and continual labours, at the helm of the church, departed to the Lord on the 1st of January, in 379. at the age of forty-nine.



His writings are replete with wisdom and erudition, and rich are these gifts he set forth the doctrines concerning the mysteries both of the creation (see his Hexaemeron) and of the Holy Trinity (see On the Holy Spirit). Because of the majesty and keenness of his eloquence, he is honoured as "the revealer of heavenly things" and "the Great."



Saint Basil is also celebrated on January 30th with Saint Gregory the Theologian and Saint John Chrysostom.



Rest from labour.



Apolytikion in the First Tone

Thy sound hath gone forth into all the earth, which hath received thy word. Thereby thou hast divinely taught the Faith; thou hast made manifest the nature of all things that be; thou hast adorned the ways of man. O namesake of the royal priesthood, our righteous Father Basil, intercede with Christ God that our souls be saved.





Kontakion in the Fourth Tone

For the Church art thou in truth a firm foundation, granting an inviolate lordship unto all mortal men and sealing it with what thou hast taught, O righteous Basil, revealer of heavenly things.





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(Dutch) Reformed Church in America Daily Prayer Request for Sunday, 1 January 2012

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January 1 Prayer Request


Pray for the ministry and mission of the Classis of Albany. Ask God to bless the work of the churches there, and also pray for the classis leaders.



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Tying The Knot

From Tricycle:

Tying The Knot



Judy and Charles Lief were married by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche in 1975



A marriage in New Mexico: Anna Christine Hansen and Dixon Wolf



Tenshin and Seisen Fletcher were married by Maezumi Roshi in 1981



George Bowman and Trudy Goodman were married by Maureen Stuart Roshi in 1985



A marriage of monks: Jody Hojin Kimmel and Konrad Ryushin Marchaj—John Daido Loori



A wedding ceremony: Fern Alix and Joseph Larocca



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Judy Lief:



If the Buddhist path has to do with overcoming attachment, then it might seem odd for a Buddhist to consider adding the complications of marriage and family to her life. But in my experience it is the complications, not my neurotic attempts at smoothness, that have benefited my practice the most. These complications have been many and varied, including marriage, family obligations, motherhood, sickness, work, travel, and teaching.



My husband, Chuck, and I were married in 1975 by Ven. Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche. In his remarks, Trungpa Rinpoche talked about taking a leap and extending friendship. He emphasized that marriage was a commitment of the heart, not merely a legal obligation. The wedding ceremony consisted of making a series of offerings symbolizing our commitment to make our life together an offering to benefit others as well as ourselves. We offered a flower in order to develop exertion, incense for patience, a light for meditation, perfume for morality, food for generosity and a musical instrument for wisdom. Needless to say, it is a rather ambitious undertaking to attempt to develop such qualities, but at least we had that intention.



When you enter a relationship, you do not know if it will last. You do not know what lies ahead as you each go about your life, change, and develop. All too often the relationship falls apart with anger, bitterness, and recrimination. Even if you stay together it may be more out of habit than inspiration. Marriage can get very sticky: one moment you are holding on for dear life and the next moment want to dump everything and make your escape. Since you do not know what will happen, to get married you must be willing to take a chance.



You do not learn non-attachment by disengaging and avoiding the intensity of relationships, their joy and their pain. It is easy to disguise as non-attachment what is not non-attachment at all, but your fear of attachment. When you really care about someone and you are willing to commit to that friendship, then you have fertile ground to learn about both attachment and non-attachment. That is what makes the marriage relationship so rich.



Charles Lief:



In 1973 I fell in love through the unlikely vehicle of walking meditation practice. My circle of walkers moved near another circle that included Judy, now my wife for the past twenty-two years. The mix of folded hands, deliberate steps, and discursive minds proved fertile. Our relationship was challenged because of the intensity of our own, individual connections to our guru, which was, for me the most intimate, intense and groundless relationship I had ever had. Was I willing to share my teacher with my lover? My lover with my teacher?



Taking a leap, I found the relationship with Judy fueled more intense connection to practice. When it comes to falling in love and creating a marriage, practitioners of the buddha-dharma can experience a dilemma: How to work with the teachings of non-duality and non-attachment while committing to another who is by all appearances separate from us and very much an object of desire.



In speaking of love and non-dualism, Trungpa Rinpoche said: “People can’t fall in love unless they know they are lonely and are separate individuals. If by some strange mis-understanding, you think you are the other person already, then there’s no one for you to fall in love with.” We have spent much time learning the complications of this teaching, that 1+ 1 = 2. Joining to raise children, separating to pursue careers, back together to experience joy and pain, apart to do the same.



I confess an attachment to my marriage in the way I am attached to my teacher and the dharma. There is not a “take it or leave it” quality for me. Trungpa Rinpoche is dead, but our relationship continues to define who I am as a practitioner and a person. I experience the same quality of devotion in my marriage.







Judy Lief is a teacher in the Shambhala tradition, the executive editor of Vajradhatu Publications, and the editor of Shambhala Publications’ Dharma Ocean Series.



Charles Lief is the president of the Greyston Foundation, a Buddhist-inspired community development organization in Yonkers, New York, and was a student of Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche for seventeen years.


Judy and Charles Lief were married by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche in 1975



A marriage in New Mexico: Anna Christine Hansen and Dixon Wolf



Tenshin and Seisen Fletcher were married by Maezumi Roshi in 1981



George Bowman and Trudy Goodman were married by Maureen Stuart Roshi in 1985



A marriage of monks: Jody Hojin Kimmel and Konrad Ryushin Marchaj—John Daido Loori



A wedding ceremony: Fern Alix and Joseph Larocca



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"We were married on Guru Rinpoche Day, the tenth day of the fifth month of the year 2118 in the Tibetan calendar, the year of the Iron Sheep (July 21, 1991). My teacher, Lama Dorje, recited prayers, gave blessings, and concluded our ceremony with a Guru Rinpoche sadhana. [meditation with visualization]. Then we spontaneously spoke to our family and friends about our love. It was a joy to be married in a place where His Holiness the Dalai Lama had given teachings just months before." - ACH



Anna Christine Hansen and Dixon Wolf are photographers in Santa Fe, New Mexico.



Tenshin Fletcher:



Marriage has supported me in my practice for sixteen years. I know I can rely on Seisen for accurate feedback, both positive and negative, and I don’t expect her to reinforce my own self-view. If I expect her to make me happy, that won’t work. She cannot accomplish the enlightened way for me, so I do it myself with her and vice versa. Basically, we both walk alone, except I know and she knows that we each have the deep love and support of the other.



I am attached to her company, but that is balanced with being with the sangha and doing what needs to be done.



I’m reminded of a story that greatly influenced me when I was thinking of marriage. That is the story of an Indian prince and princess asking what they could do about their love, as they couldn’t possibly be monks. The Buddha said, “Learn to love the world as you love each other.” So that’s the kind of attachment I like to foster.



We have a moral code that both of us observe to make sure the marriage prospers. With that attachment, we both don’t have to worry about what the other is doing. I’ve no desire to be worrying where she is or have to lie about what I am doing with other women.



It’s funny, but I don’t look at attachment in a traditional Buddhist way. Rather, I believe it is natural to be attached to wife, students, country, parents, etc., but that should not get in the way of the natural functioning of the dharma. If it does, then that is what should be worked on.



In Zen Buddhism, we say you should lean on nothing, and I feel in marriage that is possible, especially if you both deeply love the Buddha-dharma.



Seisen Fletcher:



When I hear “non-attachment in marriage,” it makes me think of Janis Joplin’s “Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.” It’s a mistake to think that non-attachment means not having deep, loving relationships. Non-attachment is the recognition that our lives are constantly changing and there is nothing that we can hold on to.



Another nice Buddhist word is “commitment.” It’s fun to maintain a committed relationship in the midst of non-attachment or not knowing. When Tenshin or I have to travel, we hardly see each other. Sometimes we are both at Zen Mountain Center and doing almost everything together. Sometimes we are in total sync and completely in love. Sometimes we are in complete disagreement and furious with each other. We’ve been married for sixteen years now. I think our marriage is continuing to flourish because we are willing to give up our notions of how things should be and embrace not knowing, and through it all maintain our commitment to work through the hard times.



At weddings, Maezumi Roshi used to say that being married is like being in a three-legged race. Rather than going through life with two legs, now the couple is going through life in the awkward position of two legs tied together. These days Tenshin and I are sharing the head priest roles at Mountain Center. I have heard that when two people share the leadership role of an organization it is like a two-headed dragon. One head tries to go one way and the other head wants to go in a different direction. But we are hoping to affirm that “two heads are better than one.”







Tenshin Fletcher is a successor of Maezumi Roshi and co-acting abbot of Zen Mountain Center in Southern California.



Seisen Fletcher is a successor of Glassman Roshi and co-acting abbot of Zen Mountain Center.


Judy and Charles Lief were married by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche in 1975



A marriage in New Mexico: Anna Christine Hansen and Dixon Wolf



Tenshin and Seisen Fletcher were married by Maezumi Roshi in 1981



George Bowman and Trudy Goodman were married by Maureen Stuart Roshi in 1985



A marriage of monks: Jody Hojin Kimmel and Konrad Ryushin Marchaj—John Daido Loori



A wedding ceremony: Fern Alix and Joseph Larocca



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Trudy Goodman



Our innate capacity for love, trust, joyful intimate connection is the wisdom aspect of attachment. The Buddha warned us about unwise attachment—the desire to possess, exploit, control—and about the pain of clinging to anyone or anything.



Sometimes Buddhist practitioners get confused about attachment and think they’re not supposed to have it. They imagine that manifesting emptiness means not getting deeply involved with one another, not feeling what they are experiencing in their relationships.



The challenge I face in marriage is not attachment to my partner, but to my wild longings for him to be the way I want him to be. This is unwise attachment. I lose myself and focus on him.



Another challenge arises from the cultural conditioning that teaches women to fulfill themselves by orienting to others—as the source of love and happiness—the way a sunflower turns towards the sun. Even with the movement towards economic parity and raised consciousness, roles and expectations in marriage are still so different for women and men. I still give myself away too automatically, and get distracted from the deepest experience of my own being. When I deprive myself of my own pure presence of mind and heart this way, I cannot fully meet life in the form of me, in the form of him, of the many joys and sorrows. I’m caught! Restless and obsessed with the relationship!



How does this unwise attachment transform into true connectedness? By standing (naked) in our own truth, taking full responsibility for our own karma, our own character, and taking time together, seeing and letting ourselves be seen. By practicing together and individually, working in several different ways to untangle the knot of unskillful relationship behaviors. To create moments of just seeing and being seen requires so much mindfulness, faith, and courage, especially in the face of intense difficulties, betrayals, tragedies of life. Marriage has brought me face to face with all of this. To sit in my truth, alone and with George, quiet and strong, and make room for the immense power of love and understanding to flow through me - this changes my perspective. It takes tremendous energy and openness. This is the only way I know to cross over to the other side of suffering, over and over, and over again. Both partners need to be making this wholehearted effort.



Attachment is a given in the steam heat of marriage, of committed relationship. Without wise attachment, how can we empathize and care for the pain of each other? Or feel compassion and acceptance?



When attachment is me pulling and pushing, seducing and abandoning, it is unwise. When attachment is seen, clearly, with humor, warmth, and understanding, I am released into the infinite tenderness of universal life.



George Bowman



Yun-yen said, “Every day there’s hard work; who do you do it for?”



Pai-chang: “There is someone who requires it.”



Yun-yen: “Why not have him do it himself?”



Pai-chang: “He has no tools.”



One of the great koans for American dharma students is how to manifest one’s true nature in a committed relationship. Those of us who have practiced Zen in a serious way for many years realize in the bottom of our hearts that life is nothing but movement in relationship. In our clear moments we know that our big mind is continually falling in love with its temporal expression in this arising and falling-away world. In my less clear moments I can remember the deep connection with the one I love and try to act as if I were encountering some aspect of her.



From the perspective of this wisdom, the continual movement of relationship between Big Mind and your particular self and the so-called other is nothing but the activity of your self.



We know this in our sane moments of deep connection and yet . . . and yet . . . we find ourselves, especially with the one we love most, in some kind of messy, painful, defensive, or aggressive, stuck encounter. At these times, we abandon our wonderful dharma capacity for a world of hungry ghosts. Relationships based on these ghosts can never be intimate and harmonious, because these images are an abstraction. And yet . . . and yet . . . they are felt with such vividness and intensity.



Letting them melt in the light of awareness can feel like a great loss, an insult, or an injustice. Passionate inquiry is required to sustain presence in such moments. That melting process provides a freedom, love, and energy that is not dependent on any ideal or image, spiritual or otherwise.







Trudy Goodman, a therapist who works with children and families, was ordained as a lay Zen Buddhist in 1974. She has studied in the Zen and Vispassana traditions.



George Bowman is a Buddhist priest in residence at the Cambridge Buddhist Association. He received dharma transmission from Zen Master Seung Sahn in 1992.


Judy and Charles Lief were married by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche in 1975



A marriage in New Mexico: Anna Christine Hansen and Dixon Wolf



Tenshin and Seisen Fletcher were married by Maezumi Roshi in 1981



George Bowman and Trudy Goodman were married by Maureen Stuart Roshi in 1985



A marriage of monks: Jody Hojin Kimmel and Konrad Ryushin Marchaj—John Daido Loori



A wedding ceremony: Fern Alix and Joseph Larocca



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On October 19, 1997, Jody Hojin Kimmel and Konrad Ryushin Marchaj, two senior monastics in the Mountains and Rivers Order at Zen Mountain Monastery in upstate New York, were married in a spiritual union ceremony created by John Daido Loori, the monastery’s founder and abbot. Kimmel is program coordinator at the monastery; before entering into full-time monastic training, she worked as an artist and taught ceramics, drawing, and painting. Marchaj coordinates public relations for the monastery and its publishing wing, Dharma Communications. Before becoming a monk, he worked as a pediatrician and psychiatrist. At the opening of the ceremony, John Daido Loori described the nature of a spiritual union and how it departs from a marriage of laypeople.



The spiritual union ceremony of these two monastics is difficult to explain and appreciate, as it does not have a common precedent either within or outside of Buddhism. Marriage is a legal entity. It is primarily concerned with procreation of children and establishment of a legitimate descent line of a family. It is also an economic contract that determines ownership of wealth and laws of inheritance. The definition of “wedlock” is an institution whereby men and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family.



None of this is applicable to these Mountains and Rivers Order monastics, who have taken formal life vows of simplicity, poverty, selflessness, and stability. They have made a vow not to procreate children and not to maintain a family. They have given their lives to the service of the dharma, to the service of all beings, and are committed wholeheartedly to accomplish the Buddha’s way.



The form that we use for this ceremony is not that of a normal Buddhist marriage. It is much more like a monastic ordination. The uniqueness of this union is that it is essentially a spiritual partnership based on monastic vows. It is a merging of the spheres of spiritual and personal vows. It is not a union that is concerned with procreation, legal rights, property, or material wealth, because of the precedent of monastic vows. Rather, it is a simple and pure spiritual bonding of two people’s commitment to their respective life’s work with their personal vows to each other. It is very tempting and easy to try to equate this with models available in our society, but it is something quite different—unique, profound, and solemn.



The bonsho bell begins to ring. Joseph says it is time to go. I hear the flute and cello in the zendo as I walk in. Everyone is seated in a semicircle around us. We sit seiza in front of a little altar in front of the big altar. Joseph’s nine-year-old niece hands Joko a small bouquet of flowers. Joko starts his prostrations. I wonder what Joseph’s family thinks. I hope that they are comfortable. I look to my right. I see solemn looks. I look to my left. I see a big smile on Kwong Roshi’s face. My shoulders drop. I smile. My teacher is here. He made it back from Poland in time! I am relaxed as Joseph and I get up and light our candles with the altar candle and bring them back to the little altar in front of us. Joko gives his opening statement:



“On this twenty-seventh day of July, we have come together for the marriage ceremony of Fern Alix and Joseph LaRocca. May they continue to deepen their life with each other and with all sentient beings.”



The bell rings and we chant the Heart Sutra from the chant cards we placed on the chairs. Then Joko talks to us about the Three Treasures:



“First, life is completely still. It is without excitement. It is always still, indifferent to whether or not your life is dramatic. This stillness which continually sustains our lives is called Buddha-life. Please trust this life in each other. Trust each other in every way.



“Second, the truth of life is to live. Through stillness in life we learn something which enables us to have a positive way of life. Please treat each other with deepest respect. To realize this, day after day, is your greatest teacher. Please know each other intimately.



“Third, to live is to be lived. Giving is receiving. Surrendering to each other is to surrender to your true Self. Please know that you live once and are lived by your wife, husband, families, friends, and all beings. Your marriage will give confidence to you and others around you. Please take good care of each other continuously. Kindness and consideration even in anger and adversity are the doors of compassion. And love is the fruit of compassion. May I express joy that you are taking a new step forward in life. This day is made possible not only because of your sincerity and purity of heart, but through the benevolence of the Buddha, your parents, and the whole society. It is my deepest wish that you remain wholehearted as husband and wife throughout your life with the same deep feeling that you are experiencing now.



“Faith, love, respect ,and kindness are the sustaining virtues of marriage. They give us strength to be open to each situation, and help us realize that everywhere we turn we meet ourselves. It is my wish that you both evolve together and keep in mind that the expression of gratitude is the greatest treasure. May you help each other realize your true Self."



Joko then recites the Five Precepts, ringing the bell before each one.



“We nourish ourselves and each other by living according to the Five Precepts:



1. In every way we can, we allow our deepest Self to appear.



2. We take full responsibility for our own life, in all its infinite dimensions.



3. We affirm our trust in the compassion and wisdom of our own body, which through our path shows us non-attachment.



4. We are committed to embrace all parts of ourselves, including our deepest fears and shadows, so that they may be transformed.



5. We affirm our willingness to keep our heart open, even in the midst of great pain.”



Joko asks if we will maintain them and we each answer, “Yes, I will.” We gassho, and then Joseph picks up the wedding vows we created.



"We are beginning this marriage because we love, respect, and care about each other,” he reads. “As your husband, I will strengthen our love, speak honestly, listen openly, and love and cherish you as always, as I do now. May we live joyously, freely, laugh freely, and support our marriage through the trials and triumphs to come. May we achieve peace for ourselves and the world around us. With continued love, friendship, and trust, I accept you, Fern, as my partner in life. May our great journey together in this world, as husband and wife, begin today."



I say my vow to Joseph. Then Joko explains the juzus: “Buddhist beads symbolize Awakened Mind.” He purifies the beads and offers one to me. It is the wrong one, the one intended for Joseph. I gassho and receive it in both palms, turn to Joseph and place it over his left wrist. He looks at me, frightened, and whispers, “It’s the wrong one!” “It’s okay,” I say. He smiles. We both gassho. Then Joko offers one to Joseph, and he places it over my left wrist. I wonder if Joseph will use his.



Joko then explains the meaning of the rings: “Precious metal rings symbolize long life, not only in years, but in all the infinite dimensions of each moment shared.” He purifies my ring and offers it to Joseph, who turns to me and places it on my finger. We both gassho. Then I give Joseph his ring.



“It gives me the greatest honor to present the Precepts to you both,” Joko says. “By receiving these Precepts, you have entered the Way with all sentient beings. Let us all meditate in silence.” Our five-minute meditation ends with the sound of the bell.



Joko purifies wisdom water over an incense urn, anoints his head with a wet willow leaf, gets up and anoints me and Joseph individually. He swishes the willow leaf toward parents, and friends, and re-anoints himself. He then signs our certificates. Joseph and I kiss. I feel smiles in the room.



Joko then asks if anyone would like to speak. Joseph’s mother offers us best wishes. My only living relative, my brother Allen, wishes us well. I look around as if to prod my friends to speak up, but they remain silent. Joko speaks: “Through the benevolent guidance of the Buddha, family, and friends, this marriage of Fern and Joseph has been auspiciously sealed. Let us all celebrate!”



We leave the zendo and head for the limo as people toss rose petals at us. The best man, David, hands me a glass of champagne and says, “Congratulations! What does it feel like to be married?”



“Just like it felt yesterday,” I reply. “And just like it will feel tomorrow.”







Fern Alix LaRocca, a financial advisor, has studied Soto Zen Buddhism under Kwong Roshi for sixteen years. She lives in San Francisco, California.